Calling Husband with Name and Tu & Tum: Dr Farhat Hashmi

[Historian777]

Before and after marriage:

 

[kakamuna420]

the young generation girls don't know cooking, are not good in other areas and won't say sartaaj to husbands. They make husbands babysitters

 

[LeezaKhan]

It's friendly and normal to call husband by name. Calling stupid names aka sartaj-kinda-bullshit is pathetic and artificial.

 

[Historian777]

It's friendly and normal to call husband by name. Calling stupid names aka sartaj-kinda-bullshit is pathetic and artificial.

You can call him Jaanu. .. to be more friendly call him Honey, otherwise khan sahab chaudhry sahab, munay kay daddy... and aap. but give respect and it should sound respect ..not like you are calling your child..This was never the way but things are changing to the worst especially since women have come into work force or are the bread winner ..

 

[Humi]

This is absurd. Respect doesn't come from labels like aap, Janab, tu and tum. You can call someone by the most respectable label out there and still not have a shred of respect for them in your heart. Insisting that someone call you by these "respectable titles" is a sign of arrogance and honestly a little sad that you are seeking validation from others based on how they address you.

 

[khipk]

My wife calls me by name, and uses "tum". And I insisted on this, the result? we are more friendly and frank to each other. This is a cultural thing not a Islamic, stop mixing the two.

 

[c'estmoi]

Marriages are overrated.

 

[Raiwind-Destroyer]

This is absurd. Respect doesn't come from labels like aap, Janab, tu and tum. You can call someone by the most respectable label out there and still not have a shred of respect for them in your heart. Insisting that someone call you by these "respectable titles" is a sign of arrogance and honestly a little sad that you are seeking validation from others based on how they address you.

well in that case why do you call your boss sir and give all the respect over and above because he or she pays you and when it comes to respecting your spouse we have a problem with it what a great hypocritical feminist world we live in

 

[FahadBhatti]

Lol , who says sartaaj these days?

Tum and calling by name is fine.

 

[LeezaKhan]

Looks like someone is not being respected at home and he thrown out his rage on all women.

Dude, take a chill pill. Respect is earned no matter how much Aap janab sartaj you may call it. If you are not worth a man, you are not.

 

[Historian777]

Looks like someone is not being respected at home and he thrown out his rage on all women.

Dude, take a chill pill. Respect is earned no matter how much Aap janab sartaj you may call it. If you are not worth a man, you are not.

Looks like someone is not taught how to address and respect. . And that respect always start with Aap, janab
Treat your husband like a king if you want to be treated like a queen

 

[c'estmoi]

This thread is so much fun ?

 

[LeezaKhan]

ریسپیکٹ آپ جناب سے نہیں ہوتی۔
اب دیکھیں میں آپ کو آپ کہہ رہی ہوں لیکن اس کا مطلب یہ تھوڑی ہے کہ میں آپ کمی ریسپیکٹ کرتی ہوں؟
حالانکہ میں اہنے شوہر کو تم کہتی ہوں ، جبکہ میں اس کی دل و جان سے عزت کرتی ہوں​

 

[Humi]

well in that case why do you call your boss sir and give all the respect over and above because he or she pays you and when it comes to respecting your spouse we have a problem with it what a great hypocritical feminist world we live in

why on earth would I be calling any employer a sir or madam? anyways if people are doing that, then that is a problem with the Capitalist mindset that your employers deserves extra respect just because they gave you a job. You get paid for doing labour. Your employer doesnt do a favour to you. There is no need to sit your employer on a pedestal and call them sir.

 

[Historian777]

why on earth would I be calling any employer a sir or madam? anyways if people are doing that, then that is a problem with the Capitalist mindset that your employers deserves extra respect just because they gave you a job. You get paid for doing labour. Your employer doesnt do a favour to you. There is no need to sit your employer on a pedestal and call them sir.

Sir is a word used for respect, most of the people find it respectful saying sir or madam for example a student call's his teacher or you call some senior.. it 's sign of respect for his position or may be age . It is a common practice of the industry too..

 

[Allama G]

good lecture. It's not non-islamic to call by name but for a better home and society,this guidance is necessary

 

[akinternational]

koi mas'ala nahin...lekin izzat aur ehtram zaruri hai....urdu men yaqeenan aap hi behter hai lekin pakistan ki deeger zabanon men koi mas'ala nahin.....ye mohtarma ki pasand aur rai hai....iska deen se kuch taaluq nhin.....shohar ka ehtram lazim hai...
*Pakistan men sharab aur sood band karo**

 

[Historian777]

ریسپیکٹ آپ جناب سے نہیں ہوتی۔
اب دیکھیں میں آپ کو آپ کہہ رہی ہوں لیکن اس کا مطلب یہ تھوڑی ہے کہ میں آپ کمی ریسپیکٹ کرتی ہوں؟
حالانکہ میں اہنے شوہر کو تم کہتی ہوں ، جبکہ میں اس کی دل و جان سے عزت کرتی ہوں​

This is how you are calling your husband after marriage...

 

[Aamir Ayoub]

the respect has to be mutual
not just one sided

 

[islamabadi]

This speaker should first tell eveyrone that she belongs to the wahabi/salafi sect so that those who do not belong to that sect can pass the video.....