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Gheerah
I want to share something that really touched my heart, in this time and age most men and women have lost their Gheerah, and the people who do have Gheerah they are shunt down by phrases like "You are not giving me space"; "Its marriage not prison" ; " I need my freedom"; "You cant stop me" etc.
Before we go towards the hadith, just a quick overview of what Gheerah means:
Gheerah is an Arabic word which means protectiveness or jealousy. It is a good type of jealousy, like when a man feels jealous or protective over his wife or sisters and other-womenfolk and doesnt like other men to look at them. It is a natural inbuilt feeling Allah has given men and women. The Prophet (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) had the most Gheerah for his wives and all of the companions were known for their Gheerah.
]ll Muslim men should have a collective sense of protectiveness for Muslim women as Allah says in the Quran, the meaning of which is: The Men are the protectors and maintainers of women (Surah An-Nisaa, Ayah 34).
To further understand the quality of Gheerah, we can look at an incident that Asmaa radi allahu anha the daughter of Abu Bakr As-Siddeeq radi allahu anhu and sister of Aisha radi allahu anha relates about herself. Abu Bakr was a wealthy merchant and he married his daughter Asmaa to the great companion Az-Zubayr ibn al-Awwam radi allahu anhu who was a very poor man but a man of great piety and one of the companions who were promised Paradise. Asmaa relates:
When az-Zubayr married me, he had neither land nor wealth nor slave, so Asmaa had to work very hard kneading dough, going far off to get water. And I used to carry on my head, she continues, the date stones from the land of az-Zubair which Allahs Messenger sallallahu alaihi wassalam had endowed him and it was a distance of two miles from Madeenah. One day, as I was carrying the date-stones upon my head, I happened to meet Allahs Messenger sallallahu alaihi wassalam, along with a group of his Companions. He called me and told the camel to sit down so that he could make me ride behind him. I felt shy to go with men and I remembered az-Zubair and his Gheerah and he was a man having the most Gheerah . The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alaihi wassalam understood my shyness and left. I came to az-Zubair and said: The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alaihi wassalam met me as I was carrying date-stones upon my head and there was with him a group of his Companions. He told the camel to kneel so that I could mount it, but I felt shy and I remembered your Gheerah. So Asmaa declined the offer made by the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wassalam. Upon this az-Zubair said: By Allah, the thought of you carrying date-stones upon your head is more severe a burden on me than you riding with him. (related in Sahih Bukhari)
Look at the sense of dignity and modesty of Asmaa! See how she felt shy in front of men? See how careful she was about her husbands feelings? She knew that her husband had a lot of Gheerah so she didnt want to upset him by accepting the Prophets sallallahu alaihi wassalam help even though the Prophet was the purest of men and even though it meant bringing hardship on herself! And look at az-Zubair radi allahu anhu, even though he had a lot of Gheerah, he didnt want to inconvenience his wife. What a beautiful relationship they had!
So my dear brother and sisters survive your sense of Gheerah and dont let it be a burden for you but a way to understand the love and compassion of your loved ones.
May ALlah (swt) bless you all with love and mercy of Allah (swt) - ameen
SubhanAllah - All glory to Allah (swt)
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I want to share something that really touched my heart, in this time and age most men and women have lost their Gheerah, and the people who do have Gheerah they are shunt down by phrases like "You are not giving me space"; "Its marriage not prison" ; " I need my freedom"; "You cant stop me" etc.
Before we go towards the hadith, just a quick overview of what Gheerah means:
Gheerah is an Arabic word which means protectiveness or jealousy. It is a good type of jealousy, like when a man feels jealous or protective over his wife or sisters and other-womenfolk and doesnt like other men to look at them. It is a natural inbuilt feeling Allah has given men and women. The Prophet (sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam) had the most Gheerah for his wives and all of the companions were known for their Gheerah.
]ll Muslim men should have a collective sense of protectiveness for Muslim women as Allah says in the Quran, the meaning of which is: The Men are the protectors and maintainers of women (Surah An-Nisaa, Ayah 34).
To further understand the quality of Gheerah, we can look at an incident that Asmaa radi allahu anha the daughter of Abu Bakr As-Siddeeq radi allahu anhu and sister of Aisha radi allahu anha relates about herself. Abu Bakr was a wealthy merchant and he married his daughter Asmaa to the great companion Az-Zubayr ibn al-Awwam radi allahu anhu who was a very poor man but a man of great piety and one of the companions who were promised Paradise. Asmaa relates:
When az-Zubayr married me, he had neither land nor wealth nor slave, so Asmaa had to work very hard kneading dough, going far off to get water. And I used to carry on my head, she continues, the date stones from the land of az-Zubair which Allahs Messenger sallallahu alaihi wassalam had endowed him and it was a distance of two miles from Madeenah. One day, as I was carrying the date-stones upon my head, I happened to meet Allahs Messenger sallallahu alaihi wassalam, along with a group of his Companions. He called me and told the camel to sit down so that he could make me ride behind him. I felt shy to go with men and I remembered az-Zubair and his Gheerah and he was a man having the most Gheerah . The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alaihi wassalam understood my shyness and left. I came to az-Zubair and said: The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alaihi wassalam met me as I was carrying date-stones upon my head and there was with him a group of his Companions. He told the camel to kneel so that I could mount it, but I felt shy and I remembered your Gheerah. So Asmaa declined the offer made by the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wassalam. Upon this az-Zubair said: By Allah, the thought of you carrying date-stones upon your head is more severe a burden on me than you riding with him. (related in Sahih Bukhari)
Look at the sense of dignity and modesty of Asmaa! See how she felt shy in front of men? See how careful she was about her husbands feelings? She knew that her husband had a lot of Gheerah so she didnt want to upset him by accepting the Prophets sallallahu alaihi wassalam help even though the Prophet was the purest of men and even though it meant bringing hardship on herself! And look at az-Zubair radi allahu anhu, even though he had a lot of Gheerah, he didnt want to inconvenience his wife. What a beautiful relationship they had!
So my dear brother and sisters survive your sense of Gheerah and dont let it be a burden for you but a way to understand the love and compassion of your loved ones.
May ALlah (swt) bless you all with love and mercy of Allah (swt) - ameen
SubhanAllah - All glory to Allah (swt)
