I will try provide you detailed answers later when I get enough time, I have read books about all of this, I will quote you correct ahadees and sources, which will take time.
With all due respect, you are only following translation of the quran, without the light of ahadees and sunnat-e-rasool, which is exactly what ghamidi is doing. Quran without ahadees and sunnat-e-rasool can be turned into any desired direction.
As far as the mujra thing is concerened, mujra/dance is solely based on music without music there is no mujra/dance, dance defined in urdu is mujra. If you dont agree then do please tell me the difference between dance and mujra?
Hidaya definately comes from Allah but Allah appoints a messenger that explains those hidaya through his words and his actions. All aspects of the life of a messenger is meant to be a role model for the rest of the ummat (which also includes the behaviour of the wives).
How would you know how to pray from the quran without the messenger of Allah, Hazrat Muhammad pbuh?
Think about this, if men are to follow Hazrat Muhammad pbuh, then whom would women follow?
You say you will not follow any one molvi blindly, which a contradiction of your own actions. By the looks of it you support ghamidi in full.
No offence ;)