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Only For My Husband Posted by Nor Liana Kamaruzzaman in Marriage, Love
A guy likes a girl. It's not the first time, but it was a special one, because he never asked someone out before. He asked her out.
She replied," No."
"Well then, at least talk to me?" She shook her head.
"Can't I be someone special for you? I promise you anything."
"Promise me anything, but the answer is the same..Sorry, but only for my husband."
He was heartbroken, thinking the girl rejected him. He thought she liked his popular friends better, or that he have so many flaws and the girl thought he was beneath her.
He found out his friend got rejected too.He heard many rumors about the girl; she was tainted, she's a homosexual., she acted like innocent but actually desperate. So many things are talked behind the girl's back. Still, he has faith in her. Somehow, he believe, he felt it, the difference of her than others.
In his heart, he knew, this are the talk of those who are heartbroken or envious. Many guys had tried, but failed, like him. Her answer is always," Only for my husband," despite still being single.
A few years later...
The boy, who was now a man, saw the girl again. He felt his heart tugged. With bismillah, Allah's will in his heart, he went to the girl's father and mother to ask for her hand in marriage. The father said it depends whether the girl will agree or not. Now, he really thought there is no hope; he was rejected once, he will be rejected again.
Much to his surprise, she agreed.
After nikah, he asked her,"Do you love me?"
She said,"Yes, from the first time we met."
"Then, why did you pushed me away?"
An understanding smile lit her face, as she cupped her husband's face lovingly in her hand.
"Dear husband, if you received a gift from me, would you rather something I found and pick up along the road, or something I have earn specially for you?"
"Of course, dear wife, something that you earn specially for me."
"That is what it was, dear husband. Years ago, what I did not agree to is zina. For what should I go out with you, when we have no real connection? Would you want your wife, a woman who is easily swayed with temptations? This is my prove, my gift for you. By fighting temptations, I have proven my credibility to be loyal to you, to hold my responsibility and commitment to you, just as my loyalty and commitment to abide by Allah's words. By fighting temptations, even with the promises that you might be my future husband, Alhamdulillah, isn't it the most priceless gem for you?"
"But at that time, you rejected me. You said, only for your husband?"
"Are you not my husband?"
"I am..."
'Then, aren't you happy, that everything you have ever ask for, only you, dear husband, only you, will have with me? No one before you, before our nikah, have ever felt the same with me? Don't you love and cherish such exclusivity?Don't you love and appreciate such gift?"
In which, the husband smiled," Yes, I understood."
A wife's priority, her husband, is only second to Allah. No, it doesn't mean she should be his slave. A man's weakness, ever since Adam, is his wife. When he is prioritized, this ensure the strength of the bond. Insya-Allah...
For a woman, before marriage, they are the responsibility of the father. Only a man brave enough to ask the permission to take care of her, as his wife, from her father, is good enough to be her husband.
So girls, no matter how much the guy professed he could die for you, swim across the seven seas for you, jump into a bonfire for you, but if he is not willing to ask for your hand from you father, he will not be responsible for you....
And a guy who cannot control temptations until he spoke his akad, would he have enough patience, commitment and reliability on being loyal and caring for you? I don't think so...
Marriage is not a union of two people, but of two families. A mosque is not build with two stones, but a whole equipments are needed. It's not only the support of the husband and wife, but also both their families.
From whom this story is? Why should there be any root or source? This is just a story. It could be anyone's story. It could be yours. It could be someone close to you. It could be someone whom you met, or you will meet. This is a common story. In a world full of temptations, don't lose hope that there are some that are still strong fighting them.
So, fight the temptations. Let other say you are conservative, old-fashioned. Let them say you are living in your own world.
Let them say anything. What they say doesn't make what you are. Abide by their words, or abide by the words of our God? your choice...
Don't resign yourself, saying," I don't need the best, just look at who I am." It's not what you are born with that is counted, it's what you do, what you thought of, what you try to achieve. There is no such thing as a perfect man, or a perfect woman; everyone is a a piece of a jigsaw puzzle, we learn by complimenting each other weaknesses and supplement each other's strength.
Why should we save ourselves? What about the guys? Girls, don't you know, good women are only for good men, adulterers are only for other adulterers? Do you really think a guy could play around, and not feel inadequate when paired with someone who doesn't? And don't you know, a girl cannot be forced to get married, however they can be suggested? So, it is still in your hands. Follow what Allah had said, better if you research by your own, because's people's words tend to be half of the picture.
Piety is the basis of choosing the life partner. Many are the statements of the Qur'an and the Sunnah that prescribe kindness and equity, compassion and love, sympathy and consideration, patience and good will. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, says,"The best Muslim is the one who is best to his family."Also, he says," and the most blessed joy in life is a good, righteous wife."(Reported by At-Tirmidhi)
"Our Lord! Grant unto us wives and offspring who will be the joy and the comfort of our eyes, and guide us to be models of righteousness.(Al-Furqan: 74)
هن لباس لكم وانتم لباس لهن
Ertinya, Para isteri menjadi pakaian bagi suami dan bagi suami menjadi pakaian bagi isteri -
al- Baqarah 187 AMIN !!!
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