A girl murdered in Lahore, Just because she didn't bring enough 'Jahaiz'

GreenLove

Citizen
I'm going to assume the two families are Muslims. In Islam, the dowry is given to the woman from the man. To show he can provide for a family. This jahaiz that we have today is utter nonsense from an Islamic perspective.
About time we concentrate on religion and give up cultural practices that clash with Islam. It will make life so much easier for everyone.
 

Humi

Prime Minister (20k+ posts)
aurat ki nahi.........mard ki keemat?........

good point! I wonder why men don't see that it is they who are being bought! mard ki keemat jo apnay pairon pay khaday honay ki bajay biwi kay khandaan kay paison pay palta hai..:angry_smile:..why give you daughter to such a person? :(
 

aamir_uetn

Prime Minister (20k+ posts)
yes..aurat ki qeemat aka dowry! :angry_smile:
acha normally hota hai is haath day us haath lay, iss maamlay mein is hath lay aur us hath bhi lay he hota hai , larki bhi le li aur qeemat bhi ....... amazing deal ;)
 

A.Ali.T

Minister (2k+ posts)
I'm going to assume the two families are Muslims. In Islam, the dowry is given to the woman from the man. To show he can provide for a family. This jahaiz that we have today is utter nonsense from an Islamic perspective.
About time we concentrate on religion and give up cultural practices that clash with Islam. It will make life so much easier for everyone.

Easier said than done. People who condemns dowry the most are usually the same people who demand or give dowry the most. Just my opinion. These type of bad practices are on the rise instead of declining.
 

Humi

Prime Minister (20k+ posts)
I'm going to assume the two families are Muslims. In Islam, the dowry is given to the woman from the man. To show he can provide for a family. This jahaiz that we have today is utter nonsense from an Islamic perspective.
About time we concentrate on religion and give up cultural practices that clash with Islam. It will make life so much easier for everyone.

you are talking about haq-mehr...I think most people give the minimum...and if they do promise to give a lot, they don't give it even when you are talking divorce...and on top of that, not much can be expected from our legal system to make the men pay it either...
 

sarbakaf

Siasat.pk - Blogger
yes..aurat ki qeemat aka dowry! :angry_smile:

عورت کے قیمت نہیں
بلکہ ، مرد کے قیمت جو عورت ادا کر کے کنجوس ، نا عاقبت اندیش اور خبیث صفت افراد سے ان کا بیٹا خرید لیتے ہے


مگر ہر کاروباری کے طرح اپنی اولاد کی مناسب قیمت نا لگنے پر بیچاری خریدار کو ظلم کا نشانہ بنایا جاتا ہے.


اور ظلم کرنے والے بھول جاتے ہیں کہ وہ جہیز نہیں اپنی اولاد بیچ رہے ہیں.


سوداگر ہیں ، مناسب دام چاہتے ہیں ، بازاری قیمت وصول کرنا چاہتے ہیں.

 

Humi

Prime Minister (20k+ posts)
Easier said than done. People who condemns dowry the most are usually the same people who demand or give dowry the most. Just my opinion. These type of bad practices are on the rise instead of declining.

I would rather die as a lonely 80 year old woman than give my husband dowry!
 

aamir_uetn

Prime Minister (20k+ posts)
انسانیت کی انتہائی زلالتوں میں سے ایک ہے یہ
:angry_smile::angry_smile::angry_smile::angry_smile::angry_smile::angry_smile::angry_smile::angry_smile::angry_smile:
 

Humi

Prime Minister (20k+ posts)
acha normally hota hai is haath day us haath lay, iss maamlay mein is hath lay aur us hath bhi lay he hota hai , larki bhi le li aur qeemat bhi ....... amazing deal ;)

aison logon ko keemat day kay apni beti waapis lay leni chahiyay..(serious)
 

A.Ali.T

Minister (2k+ posts)
eik martay huay muashray pay ladki honay ki saza..:angry_smile:...

Look at it this way, if your daughter was getting married and you know that she is going to leave you and would not ask you for anything once she is married, wouldn't you want to give everything you possibly can to your daughter. I would give my daughter whatever I can afford. What I don't like is when groom's family demands for dowry and gifts for groom's family etc, even when they know that the bride's family cannot afford it.
 

A.Ali.T

Minister (2k+ posts)
عورت کے قیمت نہیں
بلکہ ، مرد کے قیمت جو عورت ادا کر کے کنجوس ، نا عاقبت اندیش اور خبیث صفت افراد سے ان کا بیٹا خرید لیتے ہے


مگر ہر کاروباری کے طرح اپنی اولاد کی مناسب قیمت نا لگنے پر بیچاری خریدار کو ظلم کا نشانہ بنایا جاتا ہے.


اور ظلم کرنے والے بھول جاتے ہیں کہ وہ جہیز نہیں اپنی اولاد بیچ رہے ہیں.


سوداگر ہیں ، مناسب دام چاہتے ہیں ، بازاری قیمت وصول کرنا چاہتے ہیں.


My sentiments exactly!
 

Humi

Prime Minister (20k+ posts)
Look at it this way, if your daughter was getting married and you know that she is going to leave you and would not ask you for anything once she is married, wouldn't you want to give everything you possibly can to your daughter. I would give my daughter whatever I can afford. What I don't like is when groom's family demands for dowry and gifts for groom's family etc, even when they know that the bride's family cannot afford it.

even if bride's family can afford it, the groom's family has no right to a demand...but if you want to give your daughter anything you want to that is ok...but this whole concept of "dowry" is plain sick...is ki base ko hi deemak lag chuki hai..
 

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