As far as "Quran" and "Hadith" and there references are concerned and u prohibiting it regularly to meri smjh mei aap logon k argument nahi a rha. 1 Islami masle ko hum Quran or Sunnah ki roshni mei he dekhenge na
-Brother yet again you're trying to misuse a very correct and a true statement of "Analyzing in the light of The Holy Qura'n and Sunnah" in a complete distorted and wrong way.Such statement stands true when a command has been both present in The Holy Qura'n and further backed by the Ahadeeth i.e you find more proofs of it in the Ahadeeth like Namaaz,Shirk and so on so forth....but when a command such as music being forbidden is "Not clearly by exact words" present in The Holy Qura'n and is only found to be "Negated" in the Ahadeeth several times as presented in lots of Ahadeeth about the Prohibition of music,then it would be quite wrong and inappropriate to use such a notion,it tantamounts to basically deliberately misleading someone and throwing anyone off the right track.
--The hadeeth you quoted:
Ibn 'Abbas narrates the tradition that A'isha made arrangement of marriage of one of the Ansari girls related to her. The Holy Prophet (saw) came on that occasion and said: "Have you prepared the bride?" She replied in the positive and he further asked, "whether any singing girl has also been sent along to celebrate the wedding." A'isha replied in negative. At this the Holy Prophet (saw) remarks: "The Ansar people have special liking for songs. You had better send a singing girl to say that we have here come to you and may Allah grant you and us with long life. Practice of the Companions."
-- Scholars differ on the authenticity of this hadith because of the narrators named Ajlah and Abu az Zubair mentioning it as muanan. There is doubt on whether he (Abu az Zubair) heard this hadith from Ibn Abbaas (radhiallahu anhu) or not. However, it does get strength through other corroborating chains.
--This hadith only proves the permissibility of chanting poetry which is also accepted as permissible on happy occasions.
Allah's Apostle came to my house while two girls were singing beside me the songs of Bu'ath (a story about the war between the two tribes of the Ansar, i.e. Khazraj and Aus, before Islam.) The Prophet reclined on the bed and turned his face to the other side. Abu Bakr came and scolded me and said protestingly, "Instrument of Satan in the presence of Allah's Apostle?" Allah's Apostle turned his face towards him and said, "Leave them." When Abu Bakr became inattentive, I waved the two girls to go away and they left. It was the day of 'Id when negroes used to play with leather shields and spears. Either I requested Allah's Messenger or he himself asked me whether I would like to see the display. I replied in the affirmative. Then he let me stand behind him and my cheek was touching his cheek and he was saying, "Carry on, O Bani Arfida (i.e. negroes)!" When I got tired, he asked me if that was enough. I replied in the affirmative and he told me to leave.
--This hadith refers only to the permissibility of using the duff on the day of eid. Therefore, this hadith holds no weight in trying to proof the validity of all musical instruments at all times.
--Infact, if you study this hadith more carefully you will realize that in reality it proves the impermissibility of music. Abu Bakr (Radhiallahu Anhu) regarded music as impermissible; therefore he attempted to stop the two slaves. Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) then informed him of the permissibility of beating the duff on the day of eid. (Ruh al maani 15/413, Umdah al Qari 10/259, Fath al Bari 2/513).
--Also consider that Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) did not disapprove Abu Bakr (Radhi Allah Anhu) calling those musical instruments the instruments of Shaytaan.
--The great commentator of Sahih-Al-Bukhari, Hafidh Ibn Hajar (Rahimahullah) also emphasized that this hadith cannot be used to prove the permissibility of music in any circumstance.
--Ibn Rajab (Rahimahullah) stressed that this hadith is specific to the day of Eid. The permissibility cannot be taken as general.